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(@tracy-brownlee)
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09/04/2019 11:02 am  

I am interested in what aspect of self jumps up in anger and what it might be trying to protect or achieve in its anger. We often have a protector aspect that gets triggered when a more vulnerable aspect feels  "under threat". Something triggers the anger response. What is under threat? What is at risk? The little bit I understand about the psychophonetic compassion triangle is that it identifies 3 essential aspects of self that show up in triggered situations: the vulnerable or diminished self; the critical or judgemental self; and the compassionate Self. Often the judgemental or critical aspect is trying to protect the more vulnerable aspect and might do this by projecting anger or judgement outwards or inwards wherever the perceived threat is. In identifying what actually nee, we can bring compassion into the situation, and find more skillful ways to protect that which feels under threat. Hearing the voices of the triggered angry self and the vulnerable, diminished self it is possibly trying to protect, and bringing wisdom and compassion to this dynamic (as we do with Coach Quantum) we can potentially get to the cause of the anger and find more resourceful routes to protecting that inner vulnerable (victim) self. I am not suggesting this is true in all cases, and would be interested to hear from others if you have experienced that under anger (which is an extreme expression of a number of other emotions such as annoyance and irritability, and even judgement), there is a more vulnerable aspect that the angry emotion is rather clumsily trying to protect?


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(@renee)
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10/04/2019 7:30 pm  

Tracey, I am not able to answer your question as I seldom, very very rarely ever experience anger.  But I know of someone who's is experiencing anger 3 weeks out of a month continuously.  I have seen the judgemental or critical aspect, I have seen the vulnerable aspect, I have seen the  have seen the diminished self.  Your post is very spot on.  To me it is more frightening how anger as a learnt behaviour is giving so much energy and drive that it has the ability to develop an addiction to adrenaline.  I think the fight inwards or within is as big as the fight with the object projected on to.  I know of a case where the subject has no compassion ability for the angry self and does not tolerate compassion from outside too, I guess he reason is the limiting belief that it would mean there is a weakness or helplessness which is unacceptable to the person.  It is sad to see someone drowning in this spiral as the subject is not willing to consider there is a problem in the way the emotion and energy of anger is applied to avoid pain and disappointment.  The triggers are endless and totally unforseen. So where do you begin, because beginning has a negative trigger and not beginning as well???


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(@tracy-brownlee)
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11/04/2019 6:27 pm  

Thanks Renee, this is very interesting. Anger, like any strong emotion, as an addiction - and in some cultures (I mean organisational cultures) if you have power, it becomes normalised and accepted to express anger. I think (interested in other opinions here), that at the heart of all "toxic" behaviours lies powerless (no matter your rank). I see this in the organisations I work with.


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(@mandylag)
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12/04/2019 3:13 pm  

Hi Tracy and Renee,

I think anger is indeed the base defensive response and our society has never taught us to explore what it is that we are sub-consciously attempting to defend when we express anger. It is only very recently that the neuroscience around thought-emotion-behaviour linkage is becoming more widely understood and available to the broader public (not just academics), so I am optimistic that we can more easily teach people to use anger as a portal for re-establishing Self-connection and exploring the triggers of anger and the underlying beliefs that promt us into this defensive response. It is also deeply entrenched in ego ideaology of right and wrong, so once we get a sense of each of us living by our perception of the world, then we are less inclined to be assessing/judging the world and our experiences as right/wrong. We have greater compassion for those that we observe to be acting in ways we feel are not beneficial to anyone and can laugh at ourselves when we revert to such a rigid mindset.


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(@tariq-juneja)
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17/04/2019 12:57 pm  

Thanks for this feedback on the correct approach to anger and working towards the manifestation of more empowering emotional states to utilise.


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