I resonate very deeply with what you share, both personally and professionally. Working with inner parts from a transpersonal perspective has also been, for me, a powerful way of moving beyond the sense of “brokenness”, and of shifting from the idea that something needs to be fixed to the recognition of an inner wholeness and beauty already present, waiting to be revealed.

What touches me in your words is the way this witnessing awareness allows us to meet our parts and our shadow without losing connection with something deeper within us. It feels like a space where nothing needs to be rejected, and yet everything can gently unforld and transform.

In my experience, this approach is also very supportive in addressing the subtle tendency towards avoidance or denial that can sometimes arise in spiritual work. When the transpersonal dimension is grounded in presence, embodiment, and compassionate engagement with our inner parts, it opens a path towards genuine integration.

I also resonate with what you describe about the sense of connection beyond the individual self. When this is truly felt, our heart can naturally open and allow us to see others beyond their wounds, in their deeper humanity and intrinsic divinity. I find it deeply meaningful that, in our role as coaches, we have the opportunity to recognise this beauty in others and to gently support its unfolding.

Thank you for your beautiful reflection.

Integrating the transpersonal (holistic) perspective with parts-work modalities, as you have described, is one of the hallmarks of transpersonal coaching psychology.

This holistic orientation is needed more than ever, not only in the work that we do, but in the world today!

Thank you for being a courageous trailblazer on this path!

What I’ve become increasingly aware of is how subtly spiritual bypassing can show up, both in personal practice and in facilitation. It often appears when we give in to the temptation to extract ourselves or our clients too quickly from difficult feelings, rather than staying present long enough to truly hold space for what is unfolding.

What strikes me most is that bypassing rarely comes from a lack of sincerity. More often, it arises from a genuine desire to transcend pain, complexity, or vulnerability, or from a sincere spiritual longing to access higher states of consciousness. The same dynamics can show up in coaching, particularly when spiritual language or practices are used to override difficult emotions, relational wounds or life challenges, rather than supporting their integration.

Becoming more trauma-aware has helped me appreciate how important it is to distinguish genuine transcendence from subtle forms of premature avoidance. This leaves me with some questions: how do we honour spiritual aspirations while staying grounded in the messy, human aspects of experience? And how do we discern this in our work with clients?

I’d love to hear how others here recognise or work with spiritual bypassing in their own inner work or professional practice.

Thank you for your reflexions and the reminder of re-memberance. It causes me to also contemplate our own need as coaches to be in observance to ourselves. We can easily be so focused on how we are here to be of service to a higher power/divinity/humanity but to truly be able to hold that dutiful space, we need to be taking care of our own needs. Our basic needs of course but also our continued self exploration in what ever form that might take. Without this we can easily either lose our own foundational grounding to be a holding space for clients or there may be the danger of identifying and inflating the ego self. Within Transpersonal Coaching we already have the tools to be able to help keep things in balance. Looking after our mental and spiritual health using meditational, awareness and somatic practices.

These practices are also so beneficial for helping us to see that there is a way of observing ourselves as the unique individual we are but also that  we are not a sole separate entity. We are part of the beauty that is the whole, the collective, and our actions we choose to put in the world are not at something separate but towards and enmeshed in part of who we are too. Re-membering us to be that wholeness. Win-win-win, We are benefiting ourselves, that benefits others that in turn also benefits the greater broader environment.

Your reflection confirms something I have long known — the sacred call to remember.

To remember is to return — to go back to the essence of who we truly are beyond conditioning, beyond form, beyond the layers that life has wrapped around our being. Remembering is not about recalling the past, but about reclaiming the Self — that divine spark that has always been.

Through my own journey of remembrance and awakening, I have come to understand that this is where true liberation lies. It is the quiet yet powerful unfolding of consciousness that realigns us with our Higher power. It demands presence, intentionality, and courage — the willingness to see beyond illusion and to face the parts of self that once felt forgotten.

We do not go through this process solely for ourselves, but for the collective. Every time one soul remembers, the vibration of the whole is lifted. Within every life experience lies hidden knowledge waiting to be unveiled, for nothing in life is wasted. Each event is a key, designed to awaken us a little more to our true nature.

As transpersonal practitioners, holding space for remembrance is the highest form of service. We become mirrors through which others can recognize their own divine reflection and begin to remember who they are.

With Love & Light,

Reading your post, I found myself discovering a deeper meaning in the word re-member. It turned its previously hidden side toward me, revealing the sense of participation at its core. What shifted in me now is the relatedness in re-membering not just pointing to memory, but to member-ship. This shift beautifully symbolizes the equality of form among beings.

There's an expression deeply engraved in me, one I embodied through metaphysical studies earlier in my life, that says: “We’re equal, but not the same.” Indeed, this understanding places us in a position where it becomes nearly impossible to cause harm or to engage in the kinds of collective shadow you mentioned, like war, sexism, or racism.

While people often strive for external change or attempt to control circumstances through force, the true key, paradoxically, lies in transforming the world-view. Still, as we know by now, such inner transformations often require the presence of a compassionate other. In that presence, in that union, we are given the chance to return to our senses and evolve.

The sense of separateness inherently contains a body of suffering, giving rise to emotions like greed, jealousy, lack, competition, and comparison. But when we truly understand our interconnectedness, these emotions lose their relevance, they become obsolete.

Again and again, I see the power of the pillars of the transpersonal approach, and our role as transpersonal coaches — to hold space for that re-membering. To do so as equal partners in the coach-coachee relationship. In an open state of perception, where oneness is evident, the urge to force or control life dissolves, and resistance softens, and transformation can emerge naturally.

“My job is to be a space where nothing in me is preventing the changes that want to emerge in you.”
— Ram Dass

It points to me how the microcosm and macrocosm are enmeshed and one. We are not a drop in the ocean, but the ocean in a drop as the Sufi poet Rumi says. The survival mechanisms we may have put in place when children that caused us to numb ourselves or disassociate from some experience didn’t just have an effect on the thing we were not wanting to experience, but stopped us from experiencing so much more. As we shine light on the shadow the aperture of awareness widens naturally and we re-member who we are. 

Open awareness lets us encourage that natural awareness to greaten. Seeing beyond the labels and identifications. But at the same time allows more strength of the personal expression to be in the world. With compassion, insight and wisdom.

My heart goes out to you and the family who are experiencing this loss.

A transpersonal perspective can be liberating during the grieving process, as it can help us to more fully realise that not all is lost. As you say “love never dies”. I believe, through my own experience, that our love for a family member who has passed can even grow stronger after they are no longer with us in physical form. Grieving takes time though and holding a compassionate space for those in grief is invaluable. Thank you!